So You Got Engaged - 3 Things I Learned!

The 3 Most Important Things I Learned in the first 6 Months of being Engaged!

1. Every Bride Goes At Her Own Pace– YES, even you. I know, I know, the moment you get engaged, people are already asking you what the date is. I kid you not, the day we got engaged, some excited folks were saying “So, when’s the date?” before I had even told my family I was getting married. DO NOT PANIC. THEY ARE JUST EXCITED. If you’re like me, you panic anyway (duh), and immediately start realizing some venues are booked (dun dun dun) over a YEAR in advance!!! We went to a couple venues and each time left with “So, we need to know, like, now. Because we have 4 more appointments today and September is a popular month” Oh.  Do not fret, my brides to be, there is a venue for you out there. Honestly, go at your own pace. Don’t pick a venue just because you are worried your date might get snatched up by someone else. Pick a venue because you LOVE it, and because you can see yourself getting married there, and make sure it is a realistic option for you. As for the rest of the planning, go at your own pace, too! If you get overwhelmed, then…

2. MAKE A LIST! And don’t freak out if you don’t stick to it!  One of my girlfriends gave me a planner the week after we got engaged. I think she got it on Etsy. It was a simple, month by month guide to what you (generally) should have done in the timeframe. The list was really a lifesaver because it listed things I never even thought of. What I did was take the list & made my own. I got a planner from Erin Condren from coworkers (which I am OBSESSED with), and penciled in the items from the list on the months I could realistically see myself getting it done. If you think of things in the middle of the day, jot it on a post-it, and stick it in your planner to organize later. I currently have post its that say “wooden mr. and mrs. sign”, and “hanging greenery” stuck to the front flap in my planner. Might not make sense to you, but I know what I mean, and this way, I won’t forget. Do not rely on your mind to remember the 8 gazillion things you have to do.

3. You Can’t Please Everyone – so stop trying. Really, you can’t. Lucky for me, everyone is pretty much telling me to do whatever I want. I’m a lucky bride! You want to wear 2 dresses & everyone says “who are you, Kim Kardashian?” (not that that happened to me or anything), wear 2 dresses anyway. Do what makes YOU happy and do your best to make sure you aren’t constantly worried what everyone will think. Remember, this is the one day in your life that is about YOU (oh, and the groom, I guess…JK Ky!) and you should not be worried about anything other than having a beautiful, happy day that represents your relationship and love and start of a new chapter. The people whose opinions you truly care about really want that for you. Trust me. It’s hard when you have opinions coming from every angle – but really, everyone just wants you to be HAPPY. They are only giving input because they want you to have everything you want. Listen to them, and tell them that you are thankful for their input, but if you don’t like it, don’t do it!

I hope this has helped some of you stressed out brides.

Coming into the last 5 months of being engaged I am going to post a lot more about wedding planning!

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1 comment:

  1. Congratulations lady!! These tips are actually super helpful...I'm not engaged (yet!) but I can definitely see myself being a wreck and trying to please everyone else. It's a good reminder to take a step back and remember that it's supposed to be FUN! :) Can't wait for more posts, you are going to be the most beautiful bride.